inner voice

I Have You Under My Control

I had a client ask me one time, “Where does peace come from?” You see, I have a mug in my office that has a saying on it about peace, and I think it captures the feeling that most everyone…

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What Are You Ruminating About?

Today’s topic is about something that hit me while I was sitting in class the other day. The teacher said that she realized she had been “ruminating” about a visit with a client of hers for two days afterward. She…

Do The 5 Love Languages Illuminate Our Issues?

I’ve been thinking about this blog all week. The topic is something that kinda jumped up unexpectedly into my thoughts, and now I’m thinking that I may use it as a research project when the time comes, for my graduate studies. Awhile…

Making Sure The Next One is Mr/Mrs Right Pt 2

So, we left off on the cusp of a couple of pretty big questions and their answers. No more waiting…let’s get right down to business. To recap, our girl Kim has some intimacy issues. She has an allergy to intimacy…

Will My Issues Ever Be Completely Cured?

Recently I’ve been around a couple of dialogues involving this question, and I remember early on in my own couch work/education, asking my therapist this very thing. Having now done a great deal of my own recovery work, I thought…

We See Things As We Are

I have another quote today that spoke to me, and I just wanted to say a couple of quick words about it. “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” – Anais Nin Here’s another…

Grace: It’s Not Just For Others

So let’s just jump right in to catching you up with what’s going on in my recovery. Like I said, I’m going through a divorce. What a rich garden of material to use to learn about myself! All along as…