family systems theory

Marriage Killer

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about victims. There really are true victims in this world, of course…people who have been negatively affected by the actions of others through no fault or no choosing of their own. People who died…

Effective Communication?

Today I wanted to touch on a subject that comes up all the time when people call in for a therapy appointment: communication. More times than not, the people I talk to looking for help cite failure to communicate effectively…

Beware The Timeless Lizard

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is based on the work of Harville Hendrix PhD., author of Getting The Love You Want, Keeping the Love You Find, and Giving the Love That Heals. For a simple definition of Imago Theory, try www.therapy4couples.com…

What Are You Ruminating About?

Today’s topic is about something that hit me while I was sitting in class the other day. The teacher said that she realized she had been “ruminating” about a visit with a client of hers for two days afterward. She…

Making Sure The Next One is Mr/Mrs Right Pt 3

What about if I’m married to Mr. Can’t Meet My Needs? (I apologize for the length…we have a lot of ground to cover.) “So,” you say, “I’ve decided I want to grow and be more balanced. I’ve searched and sought…

Making Sure The Next One is Mr/Mrs Right Pt 2

So, we left off on the cusp of a couple of pretty big questions and their answers. No more waiting…let’s get right down to business. To recap, our girl Kim has some intimacy issues. She has an allergy to intimacy…

Making Sure The Next One is Mr./Mrs. Right Pt. 1

This is going to be a two- or three-part blog, because I am feeling verbose on this subject! I’ve been inspired! One post just isn’t going to cut it. I’ve mentioned before that I’m a fan of Family Systems Theory. Thankfully…

Family Systems Theory, A Tiny Morsel

One of the therapists I work with, and who also has a blog (see link at the bottom of this page), is Jerry Wise. I call him “Yoda” because “the Jedi force” is strong with him! He has an uncanny, and sick…